Emily + Carlo tied the knot on September 13, 2014 in downtown Durham, North Carolina. Given Emily’s last name, it was only fitting that they celebrated not only their love for one another but their love for Durham on their wedding day. 🙂 Read more below to hear directly from the couple about their wedding and photography experience:

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1. What was your favorite moment from the day? 

Wow, so many favorites.  One moment I really loved was at the reception when Emily and I got a chance to stand up at the front of the room and thank everyone for coming, for helping, and for being a part of our lives.  That was also when we got to explain that instead of a cake-cutting, we were going to do an ice cream-scooping because of the important place that ice cream has had in our lives.  It was just amazing to see all the faces of every single person I love in my life all in one place.  And all of us about to stuff ourselves with homemade ice cream!  I hope that’s at least a little bit what heaven is like.

2. What was most important to you in planning your wedding?

For me, it was most important that our wedding do 3 main things: 1) Honor the people who have made our lives so awesome; 2) help get our marriage off to a strong start (as opposed to putting us in debt); and 3) support as many Durham-based businesses as possible.

3. What was the biggest challenge?

The biggest challenge was consistently remembering that you can, should, and MUST say “Thanks, but that’s not actually important to me.”  Pressure builds up from lots of places during the planning process.  The pressure makes you imagine that people will judge you or be embarrassed by you if you don’t do certain things for your wedding or don’t have certain things.  The truth is, to have a wedding all you need is $60 for a license and 2 witnesses. So make sure that EVERYTHING else you might do on top of that is something that you are choosing powerfully for yourself because it’s important to you.

4. What factors other than photos went into your decision on a wedding photographer? Why did you decide to pick me?

For photographers I was prioritizing Durham-based folks first.  After that, it was really important that our photographer be excited about working with us, not because we were a “gig” but because he/she genuinely cared about this thing happening in our lives.  Emily and I are both pretty sentimental people so we knew that wedding pictures were going to be something that we looked at a lot over the years.  Photography was actually our biggest splurge but we felt Courtney would do an awesome job.  Zero regrets.

5.  From booking to delivery of images and seeing the results, what in your mind made it the right choice for us to collaborate? Did anything surprise you?

The ONE thing that surprised me the most and will stick MOST with me is this: Across every single solitary part of the wedding planning process (from caterers to flowers to churches), Courtney was the most consistent, clear, responsive, and timely out of EVERYONE.  Honestly, sometimes when we were feeling down about a lack of responsiveness from some other area of wedding planning we’d be like, “Let’s ask Courtney a question!”  Boom.  Super helpful answer the very next day.  Sometimes it wasn’t even about pictures.  Courtney answered our question about where family could get their hair done in town!  Does that normally come with a photo package?  I dunno.  But it did with Courtney!

6.  What’s next for you as a couple?

Investing in each other and investing in Durham.  This is a pretty fantastic place to be with the person you’re supposed to be with in life.

7. Anything else you’d like to add about your wedding or photography experience?

Emily’s note here: Initially, screening photographers was on Carlo’s wedding to-do list since I knew he had a track record of cheesy fake smiles for photographers (I didn’t want that on our wedding day!).  His friend recommend a list of NC photographers and I remember Carlo saying that Courtney’s photographs were the only ones that made him laugh out loud with the candid, spontaneous moments she captured.  After both talking with Courtney on the phone and meeting her in person, we knew she was the one to go with!  Thank you so much, Courtney!!

Emily + Carlo, thank you so much for inviting me to be a part of your celebration! Your desire to support local businesses impressed me from the beginning, and I am so honored that you chose me to document your day. Even though your wedding is over, I hope to continue to collaborate with you and celebrate our shared love of Durham. 🙂

To view all of the photos from Emily + Carlo’s wedding and order prints, please visit my print service here.

Second Photographer: Alex Boerner

Videography: Kasha Mammone

Reception flowers: Ebb & Flower

Bouquets/Corsages/Boutonnieres: LuAnn Durham

Hair: Caitie Rumbles

Catering: Q-Shack, North Hills Raleigh

Ice Cream: La Monarca Michoacana

Linens/Dance Floor: Best Rent-All

Sound: Steven DeConto

Elizabeth and Dominic tied the knot on August 9, 2014 at Cape Fear Botanical Garden in Fayetteville, NC. A summer thunderstorm and power outage couldn’t put a damper on their botanical garden wedding, though, and this couple’s celebration was unforgettable.

Read more about their botanical garden wedding experience (and triumph over the power outage!) in the Q&A below!

1. What was your favorite moment from the day?

My favorite part of the day was definitely getting to spend some quiet time with Dominic before the ceremony. We didn’t want to do a “first look” but I really wanted to hear his voice. Since we started seriously dating, we began praying together. It is something that neither one of us had previously done in other relationships.

We both agreed that we wanted to continue our nightly tradition on our wedding day. He got on one side of the door and I stood on the other and we just had a simple moment with us and God. It eased my tension (somewhat) and gave us the both the direction that we want to continue as a family.

2. Did anything about your botanical garden wedding day surprise you?

Hell yea- things didn’t go according to plan! 🙂 Not too much did except that we walked out of there married! We planned for an outdoor ceremony, it poured. The power went out in the middle of dinner (…ahhh!!) so we had to move the whole reception to another area. Our preacher got Gangrene and cancelled the day of the wedding.

But…it was amazing. I had a couple of moments where I wanted to lose it. Ok, I kinda lost it. Luckily, it was on my sister and she still loves me!

Despite all the snafus, it was a beautiful, chaotic, lovely, mess, and we’ll remember it forever.

3. You and Dominic were intentional about including your adorable 3-year-old daughter in your wedding day. From Dominic’s vows to her to the kids tables (and dessert!) at the reception, she was an integral part of your celebration. How did you come up with some of these ideas?

Lylah-Grace was a humongous part of our planning process! We weren’t just becoming “man and wife” (who says that…??) we were becoming a family. Before Dominic asked me to marry him, he asked my dad and my baby. He knows without both of their permission it wouldn’t have happened!! 🙂

He decided from the beginning to write vows specifically for her. They were amazing. He is an absolutely fantastic Dad! I know that some couples do different things if they have kids. To us, it was super important to make sure that everyone’s kids had fun. I can say with complete certainty that they did! We wanted parents (which most of our friends are) to be able to bring their kids and not worry if they would like the food, be bored, break things, talk too much, etc. We just tried to cater to that as much as possible, while still having fun ourselves. We asked Lylah-Grace what she wanted to eat, what she wanted to play with at dinner, who she wanted to sit with…she made most of those decisions!

4. What factors other than photos went into your decision on a wedding photographer? Why did you decide to pick me for your botanical garden wedding?

I saw this amazing wedding that you shot and I saw people’s emotions. It wasn’t people lined up in matching clothes with cheesy smiles painted on their faces. I knew that A LOT of stuff wasn’t going to go as planned (I’m a mom- it never does) and I want to always remember the day for what it truly was. In your work I’ve always noticed raw emotion and fun. I didn’t want a lot of posed shots. I just loved knowing that you would capture the “feel” of our wedding.

5.  What’s next for you as a couple and family?

BABIES!!! Haha…just kidding! That’s what everyone keeps saying. Dominic has two more years of law school left. We hope to stay in North Carolina, but we’ll see where the job market takes us. Lylah-Grace just started a new year of preschool, today! So maybe, just maybe, I’ll start to get my house organized from the wedding and start writing some thank you notes! 🙂

Elizabeth, Dominic, and Lylah-Grace, thank you for being such a joy to work with! I know things did not go as planned for your wedding day, but you rolled with punches and put on a fantastic celebration. I hope when you look at these photos you see the spontaneity and happiness from your day, in spite of the bumps along the way.  🙂

To view all of the photos from Elizabeth and Dominic’s wedding and order prints, you can view their gallery on my print service.

Kristen and Mike are two of the most creative people I have worked with this year. When Kristen first described her wedding vision during our initial consultation, she mentioned hula hoops, camping, old film cameras, and their desire to make their dog the videographer. Mike told me about how instead of buying a standard engagement ring at Kay Jewelers, he decided to make their rings- not just the design, but the actual metalwork! From the get-go I knew they would be a fun couple to work with, and their creative ideas throughout the planning process really influenced the photography in a positive way!

Since photographing Kristen + Mike’s wedding has been such a collaborative process, I wanted to highlight that in their blogpost by collaborating with them in a Q&A. Kristen took the time to graciously answer my questions, and I love what advice she has for other nontraditional couples here!

1. You and Mike are both creative people and had lots of wonderful ideas for your wedding. What was the planning process like? What resources did you use to help bring your ideas to fruition?

We started planning years out (thanks to nursing school) and I just used Pinterest to collect a lot of ideas. We also followed offbeatbride.com and greenweddingshoes.com to get some inspiration. Off-Beat Bride was a great resource because they had a ton of creative alternative ideas for a wedding. They gave us the inspriation to do a wedding the way we wanted, not just the way that they are done typically. Green Wedding Shoes had such pretty weddings – so I used them for a lot of the decoration inspiration.

When we started, neither of us had any experience putting together a wedding so we just did what we thought would sound fun and meaningful to us. We loved the idea of playing games with our friends and families and spending as much time with them that we could. Other weddings we had gone to, we barely spent any time with the bride and groom and we really wanted everyone to feel like their treck to come see us get married meant that we really got to spend quality time together. Having a potluck style dinner allowed us to share the food we love with our families and made people feel like they were really a part of our wedding day.

When we were planning this, a lot of our ideas came way ahead of our realization that we actually had to execute things – so as the wedding got closer we realized that having a day-of wedding planner would be essential so that we could enjoy and relax and not stress about how it was all going to come together.

2. You and Mike structured your wedding day a little bit differently than most couples. Can you describe the schedule and speak to what led you to make this decision?

Having done photography in my undergraduate degree, I knew how awesome the lighting would be if we did it at “golden hour”, so I made the ceremony (and consequently the invitations) with that time. I wanted the ceremony pictures to be in the best lighting out of all, especially because we were planning on having the ceremony outside. Then, I realized, looking at the rest of the time we had we’d be rushed for dinner and dancing – my two favorite parts! So we ended up deciding that since we were doing a potluck anyway and had limited ways of keeping food warm, we’d just have dinner before the ceremony. It was awesome, we had plenty of time for poker, lawn games, dinner, the ceremony, and just celebrating and dancing after! And we still managed to be out of the venue and to the bonfire at midnight!

3. What did you enjoy most about your wedding day?

The most awesome thing was having every single person we knew and loved there in one place!! Everyone was able to meet each other, friends from different times and places in our lives ended up bonding and creating their own friendships! It was so amazing to just be with every one we loved for a full weekend in one place just to celebrate something awesome! At the end of everything, this was all we ended up caring about the moment that the wedding day started – I couldn’t care less at that time about the decorations or the small details (also thanks in a large part to our amazing Wedding Planner Sonya with It’s a Bridal Thing, Too – her team made our ideas come to life!!)

4. After working with me and seeing the results, what in your mind made it the right choice for us to collaborate?

Your sense of humor first! We have a bunch of crazy awesome people in our family who love to have a great time and just be silly. Having someone who is able to document that kind of fun was important. Also your sense of light in photographs was outstanding as was your use of color. Having done documentary style photography in college, you had the eye that I had for images. You weren’t afraid of getting up close to get the shots, and documenting what actually unfolded. We didn’t want a whole bunch of beautiful photos that had little meaning, we wanted to look back at the photos and really re-live the day. And you were also experienced with weddings and able to direct us in order to get the shots we wanted for the wedding.

5. What is the first thing you want to do with the images? 

As our Thank You cards, we are making a cook book with everyone’s potluck recipes they sent in with their RSVP. The photos are going in to that as well – so we’re stoked for that! Then? Putting them up on the wall and making a book out of whatever else we can’t fit. I love prints and having a physical photograph is just so satisfying.

6.. For couples out there who aren’t interested in having a traditional wedding in a church, what advice do you have for them?

Do it exactly how you want it – don’t do things because you’re told they are necessary to have a wedding. Know that the day is going to be amazing because the people around you, not because of the decorations. Don’t get caught up in making it so detailed that you miss the experience. Find a place that lets you do what you want – and that everything you want to do takes at least 1 1/2 times longer to do than you expect. Sixty people is a LOT of people, surprisingly. Stop looking at Pintrest for new ideas about six months away from the wedding. DIY projects take so much longer to complete than anticipated and you can get a little burned out. Ask your friends and families to help, and be specific with what you need them to do. So many people love to help and having people put their part in makes the day that much more awesome for everyone! Oh, and if you have an outdoor wedding, plan on renting a tent – you can cancel it days before (we still had to pay some money) but not be worried about the one thing you really can’t control – the weather!

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Kristen and Mike, thank you so much for being so great to work with every step of the process! Your wedding was unique to you, and I enjoyed every minute of it. 🙂

A shout-out to all our fab vendors for making this day possible:

Venue: Spruce Pine Lodge

Dress: Pronovias (Designer), Lana Addison Bridal (store)

Shoes: Vintage Gucci

Bridesmaid dresses: Sofitdress (etsy)

Groom’s Clothing: Jos. A. Bank

Florist: Renee at Wild Scallions Farm

Cake: Miel Bons Bons

Coordinator: Sonya Fogle- It’s a Bridal Thing, Too

Photography Assistant: Layson Peters

I kicked off the fall wedding season with Kristle and Parker’s wedding at Tryon Palace in New Bern, North Carolina. Ever since shooting a wedding near Tryon Palace three years ago, I have been dying to take a look inside the grounds. As North Carolina’s first colonial and state capitol, this beautiful mansion is an idyllic venue for a wedding. 

Kristle and Parker said their vows in the palace’s adjacent gardens and celebrated for the rest of the evening at the North Carolina History Center, right off of the New Bern waterfront. I enjoyed trekking across the palace grounds for Kristle and Parker’s portraits, as the leaves were just starting to turn. The weather magically held out for us, even though the morning forecast called for thunderstorms.

I enjoyed having my former UNC intern, Maria Estes, second-shoot this wedding with me. Maria worked for me and my husband in 2012, and has since gotten married and started her own photography business.

Kristle and Parker, thank you so much for inviting me to be a part of your day. Your laid-back, easygoing personalities made the wedding day a breeze, as you were so refreshing to be around! 🙂 I hope that you cherish these photos for the years to come. Enjoy!

Coordinator: Mike & Kathy Guzzo

Officiant: Dr. Sharon Bender

Dress: Church Street Bridal

Bridesmaid dresses: VonVonni

Flower girl dress: Nordstrom

Groom’s clothing: Men’s Wearhouse

Ties: Men’s Wearhouse

Florist: Farm LIfe Florist and Gift Shop

Catering: Strange & Sons Catering

Invites: The Graphics Shack

Band: The Flex Band